To make a longer story short (a story I share here all the time): all of our feelings are valid and okay. There are no wrong feelings, although our society pushes the message that constant positivity is supreme (it's not). We so quickly try to figure our feelings out, fix them, change them, avoid them, hide them, deny them, and push them away. And, for good reason: our feelings hurt sometimes. They hold pain and challenge and grief, and most of us aren't taught how to sit with these feelings. They can be overwhelming. And... we don't always have to Do Something with them. Most of the time, the path to moving *through* our feelings is simply acknowledging and honoring them. Holding them. Witnessing them. Allowing them.
Some ways to acknowledge and honor your feelings (there are plenty of other ways, too):
∆ Notice the physical sensations in your body
∆ Get curious about the feeling you have
∆ Avoid judging or criticizing your feelings
∆ Build an emotional toolkit to rely on when you need it
∆ Track when you might *need* to step away from your feelings (when it becomes too much)
∆ ...and track when you're able to step back in
∆ Validate how you are feeling
∆ Journal about what's coming up for you
∆ Offer yourself compassion for the feelings you have
∆ Tap into your inner child
∆ Give yourself permission to be with your feelings
∆ Pay attention to the story you're telling yourself *about* your feelings
∆ Remind yourself that all feelings are okay
∆ Get to know what your feelings might be telling you about what you need
∆ Know that it's okay to check out when you need to
A gentle reminder: the fullness of being human means allowing and making room for *all* parts of it... the easeful, the painful, the beautiful, the difficult, the empowering, the overwhelming, and everything in between. Our feelings aren't wrong or bad or shameful. They just are. The practice (key word PRACTICE) of acknowledging and allowing our feelings can bring a deep sense of freedom and space to carry us through, over and over again.
Happy Monday, friends -- take care today. ✨
Learning is easy. Unlearning is hard.
Setting boundaries and honoring the boundaries of others isn’t something most of us learned in our childhood. In fact, some of us learned quite the contrary.
Children that are raised with undependable and unpredictable parents often become adults with a damaged boundary system, causing them to raise their own children with the same problems.
We become addicted to these patterns of relating because we were raised in these environments. It is our “normal” so, to us, it is comfortable. So comfortable that anything different seems odd and difficult to understand.
So out of our fear, we stay deep-rooted in relationship dynamics, which even if it makes us comfortable, it also makes us miserable.
The cycle tends to repeat itself 🔄 until someone has the courage to unlearn.
Unlearning requires you to drop your ego and biases. To learn new concepts that don’t match the ones you already know. It forces you to challenge your beliefs. To truly know yourself and what you want out of life and go and GET IT.
If you are relatively new to the theme of boundaries and/or would like to know more, drop a "🤓" in the comments!
Posted at: 2019-07-22 16:20:17
This message can be equal parts infuriating and empowering. The bad news is that nobody can heal us for us, we have to do that on our own. The good news is that nobody can heal us for us, and we get to take our healing into our own hands. It may be true that you shouldn’t *have* to do all the self-healing work, because you never asked to be hurt in the first place. But if we can get to a place where we say, “I wish reality was different, but this is reality” and take the steps to start healing, we can find a sense of deep empowerment.
Nobody can take your healing away from you. Not a perpetrator, not a judge, not a parent, not an ex. Your healing is your right, and you have the power to defy all odds and come out a wounded but more centered, capable, strong, empowered version of yourself.
You are not responsible for what happened to you, but you are responsible for your own healing.
When we can embrace the grey, the in-between, the middle, the messiness, the uncertainty, and the unknown, we have more room and more flexibility to move. We have more freedom. We have more openness. We have more perspective. We have more opportunity.
Thank you so much, @alimakesthings, for turning my words into art. It really warmed my heart to see this this morning. It's funny how we sometimes read exactly what we need to hear... even if it comes from us. Maybe even especially then. Happy Sunday, sweet friends. Cheers to the messiness. ✨
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Comment ça il reste des places? Vous n'avez peut être pas encore vu l'info! Il est encore temps de s'inscrire auprès de moi pour samedi matin ;) INÉDIT: Dans cet atelier je vous offre la répartition de vos propres blessures et le livre "Les 5 blessures qui empêchent d'être soi même." de Lise Bourbeau. Un jour un ami avisé m’a confié : « L’acceptation est la porte d’entrée vers la transformation ». Une fois encore, le même message : accueillez les invités à l’interieur de vous, sans jugement, sans résistance, ils vous transformeront et vous permettront de vous nettoyer en profondeur.
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Michael Brown nous dit souvent : « Ne tuez pas les messagers. Recevez leur message. » Les messagers sont les personnes et les situations qui nous dérangent, celles qui semblent nous contrarier et nous diminuer. Nous pourrions dire que ce sont les mémoires émotionnelles non intégrées et les blessures de l’enfance se rejouant par l’entremise de nos expériences actuelles en tant qu’adultes.
Tout comme des enfants négligés, elles ne nous laissent pas en paix et continuent à refaire surface dans notre vie quotidienne, que ce soit sous forme de personnes, d’événements et de circonstances entraînant de la souffrance et du mal être. Elles s’expriment souvent par l’une des trois émotions de base suivantes : la colère, la peur ou la douleur... Gorakh Hayashi
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Posted at: 2019-07-23 08:07:17
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Negative feelings are not wrong. They are merely signals that get our attention. So the next time you feel any sadness, anxiety, or anger, don’t suppress your emotions. Instead, pay attention to your feelings and examine the source of the problem.
Look within First.
This is your greatest source of knowledge- your powerhouse and internal treasure chest which always offers you inspiration and gems of wisdom.
The aim of counselling is to allow you to access who you are internally and become more dependent on this.. ❤❤💪💪
[self-affirmation exercise, scroll down👇🏼] .
Mentality is everything. .
What we believe we become. .
How we view life is how we will experience it. .
I think it is wise to know how our minds operate so that we can befriend our thoughts and our belief systems and work with ourselves, not against ourselves. .
In order to make a shift of any kind awareness is the first step, willingness comes second. .
If you are wanting to welcome a new partner in to your life but are having trouble attracting the right person, perhaps you are unknowingly hitting one of your own mental blocks around sustaining a healthy relationship. .
When we are trying to attract something new and different in to our lives we must first acknowledge and let go of our old way of being, or in this case, thinking. . [self-affirmation exercise] 👇🏼
An exercise I like to do with my clients, when we are shifting their belief systems from negative to positive, is to ask them to repeat this affirmation ‘I am worthy of love and I am ready to receive an authentic and harmonious relationship in my life.’ .
Try this at home. You can gently say this affirmation or simply say to yourself ‘I am worthy of love.’ .
I recommend trying it in a seated position, eyes closed, hands at heart centre, so that the affirmation is given the space to truly sink in. .
Or, if you’re up for the challenge! You may even want to try this while locking eyes with yourself in front the mirror- scary stuff I know ;) .
How you respond to this affirmation is a good indicator of where you are at. .
I also recommend keeping a journal, of any thoughts or emotions, that you notice coming up around this affirmation. .
Try it out for 7 days and see if you see any shifts in your mentality, energy or emotional body. .
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I've been working behind the scenes to create an immersive experience within The @awakeningweekend Awakening Retreat within the Great Wonderfest festival over the weekend, as well as enjoying the heaps of good stuff the festival has to offer. There really is something for everyone. 🌈⠀
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Posted at: 2019-07-23 06:44:20
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