I've been with my husband for six years, married 3.5. I love him and adore him with all my heart," she writes. "I would never hurt him, and he is everything to me. We have a beautiful two-year-old daughter, and we're going to try for another child soon. It's a perfect marriage and a perfect life, so that makes me super ashamed to say the next part."
You might be asking, *What do you mean "the next part?" * Loving husband. Adorable daughter. Another baby (maybe soon!) on the way. What could tempt someone to put all that in jeopardy? The woman, writing under the handle "ialmoscheated," sums it up like this:
"Last night I go out with my friends to a local bar, nothing too special. We're drinking, catching up, having a good time when a group of younger handsome guys approach us and start up a conversation. It was fun, a bit flirty, but definitely lighthearted and harmless. Anyway it was getting late, around 11 P.M. so I decided to head out and get a cab home (most of my friends were single so they decided to stay a bit longer). One of the guys accompanied me out and we talked a bit outside, and he suggested I go home with him. I don't know what came over me, but at that moment the only thing I could think about was how attractive he was. It's like I completely disregarded my husband and daughter when I was around him. I wasn't super drunk, I definitely knew what was going on. I started following him to his car and was actually close to getting in but then reality hit me again and I felt so terrible."
After walking away, she called a cab and went home. And that was that.
But the guilt hasn't gone away. She continues, "I feel so shameful for it. There's nothing bad about our relationship that could lead me to cheating, we have sex often and there is plenty of intimacy. Even though my husband works a lot, he still makes time for me, and I can't thank him enough for how hard he works to support me and our daughter. I don't know how I even took a single step in the direction of the stranger's car. I would never cheat on my husband but it terrifies me that I came close to it."
We're going to go out on a pretty stable limb here and say that plenty of women (and men) have likely found themselves in a similar situation, or at least fantasized about it. There's nothing abnormal about craving a little newness in your life (or more specifically, your love life), no matter how great you have it. And bottom line: She didn'tcheat. She got it together and decided that the short-term win was definitely* not* worth the long-term cost.
Still, it's a little scary to think we're even capable of hurting a person we love. And this Reddit user is sufficiently freaked out. She asks readers: "Do I tell him? I think that I'm going to have to, because I doubt I can keep this bottled up forever."
Here's what some Reddit users had to say about that:
"You realized the huge mistake you were embarking on and turned tail and ran without any physical contact. Good for you. You stopped yourself and are remorseful, beating yourself up over it and realizing what almost, but didn't happen." —thal13
"The short of it is...you didn't cheat. You had the opportunity and didn't. There's a lot of men and women who would." —Martin 8506
"As pissed as I'd be as the husband, the fact that she felt so remorseful to me even when it didn't really happen actually seems like the response that a healthy and caring person would have so I'm happy about that." —PradOct
"Being monogamous isn't just about resisting temptation; it's also about avoiding temptation." —DeadFoyer
"You should tell him, explain it like you have here. You must accept he will feel hurt, and that you will have some trust to rebuild. This is the healthy way for your relationship." —AlliedForces74
"Take it to the grave. Most of us have been in that situation at some point. I don't really see a need to cause a fire if one technically never happened. Learn from your lesson and just move on with your life." —Yellowshortsvery