This is fast-paced world in which everyone is in a hurry. No one has the time to consider anybody else. This is not out of some innate selfishness but because they have too many things on their plate to really have time to worry about the rest of the world. One of the first casualties of this attitude is politeness.
What is politeness? The Oxford Dictionary defines the word as ‘behaviour that is respectful and considerate of others.’ Nothing says it better. Politeness is simply treating others with a modicum of respect. It is how we ourselves would like to be treated.
However, as mentioned earlier, there isn’t a lot of room for consideration of others in our busy lives. Some might even argue that respect needs to be earned before it can be given. However, the truth is that politeness is more important than ever today. From a practical standpoint, people are much more likely to agree with you and even do what you want them to if you are polite. Your dealings with them are also much more likely to be good if you are polite. To put it very simply, politeness can help you persuade people, when logic fails to convince them.
Here are some good reasons you should try being polite.
Forcefulness and Politeness
These days, people believe that it is better to be forceful to get what you want. Loud and insistent demands are the order of the day. The basic polite behaviours such as saying please and thank you are no longer to be seen. In a society that relies heavily on text messaging and social media, manners and politeness are not only seen as time consuming inconveniences, but also indications that you aren’t a strong personality. Polite people are often mistaken for pushovers.
Nevertheless, politeness has an impact that lasts much longer than forcefulness does. For one thing, you don’t rub people up the wrong way – something that may happen a lot when you’re forceful without reason. People have an innate need for acceptance. In addition, they want to be treated fairly and with respect. When you treat them that way, they remember it and in a good way. You’ve made them happy and that is not a feeling they’re likely to forget anytime soon. As such, their interactions with you also reflect that. Such people are more likely to be amenable to your suggestions and to do as you ask.
Build Stronger Relationships
While demanding things and getting your own way might work in that you get what you want at the moment, in the long run you won’t have built any meaningful relationships. People are likely to be put off by what they see as inconsiderate and selfish behaviour. They wouldn’t be too wrong. Displaying good manners means that you are putting yourself in the other person’s shoes and trying to treat them the way you would like to be treated. When you ignore manners, you are effectively telling the other person that they don’t matter and aren’t worthy of respect.
This kind of an attitude is just not conducive to building better relationships. People won’t be enthusiastic about dealing with you and may even actively try to avoid you. By behaving politely, you make a good impression and put the other person at ease, making him or her that much more likely to accept you and want to associate with you. This means that, in the long run, people will be open to you and what you say or do. They will want to continue knowing you and building a relationship with you, be it personal or professional.
Deal with Tense Situations
You may find yourself in a situation that is rapidly becoming tense and people are getting belligerent. You may be tempted to respond in a like manner. However, you will find that if you are calm and polite, the situation can be resolved much more easily. On the other hand, if you are aggressive and forceful, the situation is very likely to deteriorate. Politeness helps resolve conflict by throwing oil on the waters and getting everyone to calm down.
Polite language and behaviour are more important than we realize, especially in a world where relative anonymity on the internet allows people to behave as badly as they want without too many social repercussions. Your politeness can set you apart from the crowd.
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